Individuals and Couples

I work in-person in Boulder, CO and online with individuals and couples of all genders and orientations.

Get personalized support that is designed just for you.

I am not taking new clients at this time. If you would like to be added to my waitlist, fill out the application below and I will reach out when I am taking new clients (likely June, 2025).

The people I work with want deep and lasting transformation, not a bandaid or a quick fix. They want to truly see themselves and are craving soulful, grounded reflection. They know that growth is often uncomfortable, messy, and unpredictable and they are ready and willing to dig in.

I work particularly well with people who are exquisitely sensitive; who feel more than they know what to do with and who already understand (or want to understand) that sensitivity as an asset, not a liability.  

People come to me with:

  • Sex and intimacy can feel confusing.

    You don’t know what you want, or you do, but you don’t know how to ask for it, or something stops you from asking for it.

    You might feel overwhelmed, or bored and underwhelmed.

    You find that your mind wanders during sex, wondering about the laundry, a deadline at work, am I doing this right?

    You find yourself stuck in stories and scripts of how sex and relationships and your body are all supposed to be and look like, and what you are supposed to want. None of it fits, but you can’t get out of it and you feel stuck.

  • Shame is sneaky. It shows up in myriad ways. Some describe it as a blanket that feels near suffocating. Others like an electric fence you don’t dare go anywhere near.

    It can look like distraction. Disgust. For your body, your desires, sex. Dissociation.

    Shame can inhibit desire and limit pleasure, filling you with stories of not enough or too much.

    Sometimes it arrives in the moment, keeping you from moving toward what you want. Shame can also arrive hours, days, even weeks later, its tentacles slowly wrapping around you.

    Shame activates our survival instincts and can feel like life and death.

  • Perhaps you have sexual trauma that you’ve worked with in other ways, but it’s still impacting your life and you want to explore a more somatic approach that can include touch.

    Or, in sexual situations, you respond in ways that could indicate trauma – freezing, dissociating, wanting to run or fight, feeling disgust, rage – and you want to understand more of what’s happening for you so you can find your way to safety, connection, and pleasure.

    Sexual trauma can arise from our direct life experiences, and we can inherit it from our families and others we are close to. Simply living in our society with all of the conflicting messages we receive and the lack of support we experience can lead to what some would call trauma.

  • Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, vulvodynia, pelvic floor pain, lack of desire, lack of pleasure, pain with sex… All of these “dysfunctions” can have a biological basis, but oftentimes medical interventions do little to provide lasting relief. Oftentimes, what we call sexual dysfunction can be quite functional, providing us with information about what we need and want if we are willing to listen.

  • You don’t want to have sex.

    You don’t want to have sex with your partner.

    Sex isn’t pleasurable. it’s not painful or uncomfortable, but you don’t really get the point.

    Life feels lackluster, a little flat. You want to find the spark of something that could get you interested, but you don’t know what it is or where to go looking for it.

  • Perhaps you are going through a divorce or a breakup, and you want support in extracting your sexual/sensual self from your relationship and exploring who you are now, what you want, and how to move into new connections without falling into old patterns.

    Or, you’re entering into a new relationship and you want support in setting that up with intention and care.

    Your body has changed in some way. You’re on the other side of pregnancy, a diagnosis of some kind, menopause, injury, surgery, illness, etc. and you want to learn about your body now.

  • You know you did not receive the sex education that you need to live an enlivening, fulfilling, and nourishing sex life. You want the maps to your pleasure and the tools to explore.

    Or, you think you might be a sexual healer of some kind. Sexuality is supposed to be part of your work and offering to the world. You’re scared by this, and don’t know what it means, or could look like.

    You crave a space to explore your sensuality, sexuality, and the sensation that is available in your body that does have an agenda, expectations, or the complexities of an intimate relationship.

  • You and your partner struggle to communicate about sex. Maybe you’ve tried, or you don’t even know how to broach the topic. You need help and someone to hold space for the two of you to have a deeper conversation about your sexual relationship.

    You need help and support finding your language and your voice when it comes to sex and pleasure.

(I’ve placed all of these challenges into neat, tidy categories, but, you might already know: they are not neat, nor are they tidy. They are almost always overlapping and interwoven and I address them as such. This list is also far from comprehensive.)

Perhaps you aren’t facing a problem but you want more:

You want to bring more sacredness, and soulfulness into your sex.

You are a seeker. You’ve “done work” in many other areas of your life, but you have yet to do a deep dive into your sexuality.

You want to experience the incredible altered states available through the doorway of sex, pleasure, and your body.

We will work together to find the right next steps.

I don’t have a protocol, or “5 Simple Steps” that I’ll put you through to achieve your goals.

We will use mindfulness, somatic awareness, parts work, nervous system awareness and resourcing, and many other tools to take one step at a time, the path unfolding before us as we go.

I will use my capacity to track not only what you say, but how you say it.

We will follow curiosity and ask questions, waiting for the answers to arrive rather than rushing to conclusions.

No matter what you come in the door with... 

Your wholehearted engagement is crucial. Everything we do is co-creative, emergent, and responsive. I will guide you and offer reflection and reframes, but the steps you take will be your own.

Come expecting to participate.

The pace is yours. 

There is no one way to do this, no right way, no wrong way.  Only your way.

You’ll come away with…

A deeper connection to your own body. Practical tools and resources to help you navigate all kinds of experiences moving forward. A larger definition of pleasure and more access to it. Space from shame, trauma, fear, and anxiety. Space you can use to cultivate the life, the pleasure, and the connection you long for.

If you’re curious to continue the conversation – you don’t have to be 100% sure – apply below.
I would love to hear from you.